Serious gap!!
Katey,
when we got back from our honeymoon.. helping my Paul unpack… I realized he had sexier undies than me…no boxers etal….actually Victoria’s Secret stuff…thinking they were for me…I did not mention it…
it is like 2 weeks later…he has not mentioned it…and last nite he came to bed with a black lace teddy….seriously!
I turned over and tried to pretend this was not happening…but..he paraded all through the bedroom/kitchen to the frig..
should I say something, is this a joke, did I marry a cross dresser?
He works at the Gap …. should I make him quit? Laney
Laney,
Thanks for your thoughts..
Sorry about your midnite ride with Paul Reveal….
Unless you need someone to shop with …I would get this one annulled.
His job at the GAP was not the impetus to this behaviour…this is something he kept under wraps [tehee] …for a while.
Many people think ‘marriage’ will make all things equal, whatever the problem. Never really works out…he needs therapy…and you need new underwear…love kate
April 21st, 2008 at 9:02 pm
Dear Laney, if that is your real name.
If it is, get a new one
as the name indicates a woman of substance
of which you are clearly not.
To the opposite, you sound extremely boring and lame. You husband ought to get a lawyer now and sue you for being a closed minded ass.
Consider what he has to put up with:
Someone who freaks out at the first sign of a little panache, a smattering of pomp and runs
off to some backwater advice website to tell her how to deal.
Wake up “laney-no-brainy”.
When he starts doing meth off the back of an indian cross dresser and using your money
to buy breast implants, come on back. Till then,
grow up, and show up. This is life, not the laney-hour.
God Bless.
April 22nd, 2008 at 4:48 pm
to God Bless,
Leaving aside the ‘backwater advice website’….
Horses are pretty!…especially those festooned with ornamental feathers and plume..so much for your ambiguous useage of ‘panache’.
Look, if it’s this guys first week on the job and he needs plumage to pull it off …Ms. Laney’s got herself a girly-man.
[Not that there’s anythng wrong with that.} kate
April 22nd, 2008 at 7:02 pm
As a medical doctor who’s treated a number of ailments, I feel I must weigh in on your Husband’s affliction.
According to CrossDressingGuide.com
there 5 distinct types of crossdressers.
I am writing a paper on such matters and would
be interested in knowing which of the five
your husband currently feels most affiliated with.
I am pasting the five descriptions below along with my pressing questions:
1- The Female Impersonator
The female impersonator is a person whose prime reason for crossdressing is employment. They have perfected their crossdressing into a performing art. It is interesting to note that the late James Cagney got his start in show business as a female impersonator.
Does your husband have a job that in any way
mandates he maintain a burlesque wardrobe.
2-The Fetishist
The fetishist is a person who is sexually aroused by the wearing of certain articles of feminine clothing. Unlike the average crossdresser, the fetish will not dress completely, and will only dress when they wish sexual arousal. In some cases the true fetish may not even become aroused unless wearing the article of feminine clothes that gives him pleasure.
Does your husband find pleasure in wearing
what we call “women’s finery” or does he exhibit
signs of being coerced into it and therefore is upset?
3-Femmiphile
This is the most common form of crossdresser. In it’s simplicity, the femmiphile is a person who has a love for what our society considers to be feminine and a very strong desire to associate themselves with the feminine. Femmiphiles have high admiration for the female and wish to emulate them as much as possible.
Does your husband find women attractive?
4-Transgenderist
Unlike the average crossdresser who will spend most of his time in the masculine role, the transgenderist is a person who lives and works in the crossgendered role full time. Unlike the transsexual, he is content with his male organs and does not plan surgery to remove them.
Has your husband indicated he would like to remove his male “parts”?
5-Transsexual
While often confused with the crossdresser, transsexuals are NOT considered to be crossdressers. Unlike crossdressers who recognize themselves as males with a feminine part to them, the transsexual is a person who is psychologically a member of one sex, and physiologically a member of the opposite sex. Unlike the crossdresser, the transsexual cannot be content unless the physiological body is surgically altered to be congruent with the psychological person who occupies that body. While crossdressing for personality expression is far more common in masculine to feminine form, transsexualism is about equally common in female to male as it is in male to female.
I understand this but our audience may be a bit confused. Please read that last one to your husband and have him write in and explain it for us.
Thank you.
April 25th, 2008 at 5:47 pm
This is Paulie,
* I need to clear this up…
It was not on a whim Laney called on Kate to help us further understand our dilemma.
Some bg is needed. We first met K.. two years ago in Stockholm when we attended her seminar on “Marriage vs Mirage”. It was a four day journey into ‘your own’ enlightenment and individual development, stressing culture and refinement.
At that time we were contemplating joining a cult that brought out the effeminate quality [unmanliness if you must]…having qualities more appropriate to women than to men.
So you see Laney knew just what she was signing up for, there was no need to cast aspersions on Kate, who was and still is a basic, essential, ingredient to our relationship..[ an important building block to our well being ]
So Dr.Bassinger, I cannot be ‘fixed’ by a patchwork such as you have tendered simply to quench your curiosity and perhaps aid you in impuning/destroying James Cagney’s reputation as an actor and damn fine dancer and in essence a fine woman such as KATE.
ps.
I find you erotic and sensual. P