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dear waiting,

Leo Buscaglia, a very smart man, once wrote~~

“A total immersion in Life, offers the best classroom for learning to Love.”

[Learning to love is an endless process]

What can you do to find love?– start with liking who you are!

then you will have someone special to offer her.,

Learn a little something from each encounter, take it with you and build on it,

and remember to invest all of yourself, always.

There isn’t a woman alive who does not want to feel that she is the end all to her man!

kate

dear kate,  reading ‘Reatta’  I was thinking that maybe there are no ‘happy endings;

When i was a little boy i never dreamed or thought about who i was going to marry or what my wedding day would be like. I just didn’t care. But now that i am older thats all i look forward to is finding my soul mate.  I’m only 22 so i know i have time but it just seems so hard to meet good girls… ‘good’ being the key word here. I don’t drink so i dont want to keep meeting drunk girls at bars & online dating just doesn’t seem natural to me so what am i supposed to do???

Sincerely,

Waiting for my happy ending

Mimi,

It’s all good!

that  little bistro   lower east side…..EPSTEIN BAR???
the FISH TRUCK in Chinatown –   BI-POLAR??

THE  strange little cafe     that offers…..”exotic, edible chow ~~

DEEP FRIED FROG PARTS~~

with surprise salad!”

and of course one sad, lovely lady singing loudly  ~~  but to no one in particular.?

katey

Fair-tale ending?

This is in response to Reatta:

[afraid to 'try again']

I am sorry to have to tell you  that  the road to true love is never as rosy as Hollywood portrays. Problems in  life  just don’t  disappear   as the characters kiss and the credits roll.

Relationships are never that ‘easy’.  Life always get’s in the way, people are not one-dimensional, it’s not all about the Friday nite date and/or picnics in the park on Sundays..

In reality, 90% of our lives are unceremonious…we function to show up at work, so as to make the rent, pay the bills, shop, eat, and walk the  dog.

This elusive thing called ‘love’, finding a soul mate  is  not without complications.  You’ve been “single and not so happy” and  yet you are afraid to throw yourself into the fray again,  for fear of rejection…but there is no other way…to find someone   who  wants pretty much what you want out of life..

Believe it or not  there is someone out there for you.  You need to be armed this time  with the knowledge that the fleeting euphoria that brings people together..that time of discovery and newness, when things are just ’superb’ is just that …’fleeting’  and this is when you see what each of you are made of..dealing with the real world and still keeping that commitment to each other that makes this life pleasurable. When it makes you happy   to make him/her happy   your half-way home.  love kate

I think your Mom is trying to save you some heart break here  although I don’t agree with her methods,

dear somewhat,

To be certain is  to know things   beyond a shadow of a doubt.

It  would be lovely if life allowed us this bit of luxury, but that aint going to happen it seems.

This  is   why the age old religious struggle  will never end..some of us   just don’t know thesebible teachings  to  be   an  absolute fact…so   we go along…hoping   someone hears our prayers…just that act alone  helps us  each day…admitting  we are not infallible [sure] of any of it…but open to miracles.

Now I said   I definitely  do  not believe in ‘ghosts….but  ANGELS?  they   walk among us each day, I speak from years of experience.  It seems…they  just walk up and say something  you need to hear…and walk on.

If you doubt this   you are closed up  to the inexplicable laws of  nature…the astonishing goodness that surrounds us each day..kate

dear kate,

You are so right, my loved ones that have passed are on my mind at some point almost everyday. This keeps them alive in my heart & in my memories. Memories to me are so precious! To me they are one of the most valuable things on this earth! Thank you for helping ease my uncertainty!

somewhat less than uncertain

Uncertain,

I have never seen a ghost either…but there are so many things I have not [personally] experienced in this life, only a fool would be certain.

What exactly is a ghost anyway, is it the bogey-man?   a bit too spooky and supernatural  for me to spend time on.

I can say with some certanty, that when we die  it is the brain that dies.The 1300 grams of gray matter in our heads are where we store memory and learning.

The difference between Life and Death is in that  LIFE  we have the potential to create, in DEATH the potential to create is passed on to a receptive brain [one that lives]  through their  memory of the deceased.

So as long as we are REMEMBERED we continue to have a physical effect on other people’s brains, so  that we are not technically [or at least fully]  dead, until all memory of us dies.

As an aside  while living we are often compared to ‘computers’ … Human hardware is the Body, and the Software = the wiring  of  the brain.

Our brains are the sole determinate of our identity..

Do you find this helpful Uncertain?

From personal experience  the loved ones that have passed  on before me, are alive and well in my  heart and mind.

love katey

KATE,

You touched on a point here that I have always had a fear about. When you hear these stories of people who have had near death experiences and they claim they saw a white light or a loved one… is this just your body/brain creating a safe place for you, kind of like when you are sick & your immune system kicks in? Or are these people really experiencing something?? I guess we will never know until it’s our turn to find out. The only thing that makes me believe that there could be life after death is ghosts. But then again I have never seen one myself so who am I to say they truly exist either. Its all comes down to faith I guess and I have plenty of that! So here’s to hopeful thinking!

Mr. B. R.

I just finished a volume of work by William W. Reade on  such a subject..

To Paraphrase the author;

“The Martydom of Man”

“We walk apon the earth when living and are put into it’s belly when we die”

He went on to explain his thoughts..

Plants are dumb creatures  — yet we feel a pang of pity for a flower trampled on…this emotion comes from our childhood where they were not merely fossils but we ‘believed’ in nature, all things that moved or changed…seemed to have a mind of their own.

There is something that resides within us, entirely independent from the body in which it is contained ~~we think that it is the mind, the soul, the genius, the spirit …which thinks, desires and decides even while we sleep,    it is busy weaving thoughts in our brains and wanders into other lands, and converses with people while awake we have never seen!

Then where does this soul/spirit    go when the Body is destroyed by time?

In our dreams …what is in our hearts   becomes a vision as we pass into sleep we feel/see one who has departed in such a real sense ..that we feel    we  have been in touch with their spirit!

Thus the grand idea of Life after Death is Born..kate..

dear kate,

I am a middle aged man…am not in poor health, not too religious  - but still worry/wonder about  whether or not we just return to the earth  after death  or  is there any proof whatsoever that we don’t end here and are somehow transported to a higher place of being? B. R.