confused
Monday, September 10th, 2007
dear kate,
I will try to make this short..it is a love triangle.
I have been with this girl.. well woman, she does have a child 9yo. for a whole 2 years..its a good life…I have a great job…and pay all the bills…and she stays at home…she dont get child support..
I would like to get married
do the right thing you know…but…heres the problem..
.she tells me she needs to see this guy she had the baby with…to make sure she is really through with him. This is not the first time we took a break for her to re visit him in Tuscon. Am I being a fool here? I stay behind with her child and keep things running smoothly…dont like this set up much…but she says she loves me and thats why she is with me.
My solution is for us to continue on like we are…until she either knows who she wants to be with or until one of us men gets tired of the situation and bows out on our own. I think she is still in love with this other person.
Please give me any advice that you can in this situation, thank you Sean
Dear Sean,
Oh good lord..has this guy got it made….he lives…his life…with no responsiblility toward his ex and their child…and he graciously allows these conjugal visits to ’sort’ things out….and believe me he aint going to tire of this arrangement any time soon…
Sean —have you ever heard of a schlamiel and a schlamozzal…..well this is it..
You see the schlamiel is the guy that …don’t quite grasp the fact that someone is about to pour hot soup over his head….and the schlamozzal is the guy with the bowl standing over him….
You my friend are a schlamiel….sorry…but can you not see you are being played like a violin??
Take your bed roll….and get the hell outta Dodge.
If this woman and I use the term loosely had any intentions of hooking up with you…she is going at it the wrong way…and you are allowing it…
Sean my love, you cannot change her….you can only change you…and I suggest you make some changes right now..
ps..just for the record, I have little respect for boyfriend’s sleeping over when there is a child in the home…but thats me….love kate
